It’s Not Flattery

Picture yourself: you just got out of your favorite store at the mall, bag in hand, and walking past the food court. At one of the tables on the side, there’s a group of attractive college boys who cheer for you or whistle at you. Do you turn to look at them or no?woman-ignoring-man

There’s nothing wrong with feeling pretty or feeling beautiful. As a matter of fact, we all want to feel pretty or for others to call us pretty because it makes us feel more appealing and somebody that can be loved. Let me just tell you this: when you’re being whistled at for the first time, you will feel yourself blush because somebody finds you attractive in just one glance.

So, of course, you will look backwards at the boys sitting at the table and maybe smile because that’s how flirting works.

Now, you’re probably thinking, “That never happens to me. Guys don’t find me attractive.”

First of all, that’s not true. The ugliest person in the world is still attractive and guys have probably been attracted to you without letting you know. If you’re one of those girls who doesn’t think that she’s attractive, you probably are the most attractive of us all. You don’t think you’re attractive, because guys don’t tell you that you’re attractive, but those are the most attractive guys that you will ever meet.

You don’t want a stranger to whistle at you. Does that make you feel beautiful? Of course! But should you give into it? Well, that depends on who you are.

desperationThe girls who give in are the ones that you envy the most: you really shouldn’t, because these are the girls that are the most insecure and vulnerable. They give into the whistles because they want to feel that security and that
reassurance that they’re beautiful. If I were you, I would walk away, don’t even give them a second glance. A stranger thinks you’re pretty. So what? You don’t want to be with someone who likes you just because you’re pretty.

And it’s annoying to have them always whistle at you. Let me tell you this: it’s so goddamn annoying because after awhile, you want to tell them very rude words that I’m not allowed to post on this blog or slap them in the face and tell them to find a girlfriend a different way. The whistle isn’t flattery, and don’t give into the whistle.

If you want a boyfriend that will listen to you, you want someone to like you for what’s inside, not on the outside. That does sound cheesy, but if you date someone who likes you just for your looks, then you’ll never have any emotional connection. If you want a hook-up buddy, maybe the outside only matters, but the one thing that everyone tells me is that friends with benefits isn’t a thing.

That’s not the point, though. What I’m trying to say is don’t lose yourself in other people’s words. Because it’s not you that they will like: it’s your body. And your body may belong to you, but it is not you.

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