We live in a world filled with “likes”. Sounds cheesy, I know, but it’s true, and the funniest part is that nobody actually ever notices it. Right now, you’re probably waiting on a boy you have a crush on to text you back, and if they don’t within the next five minutes, you may go ballistic because they may not like you. That kid on your right is probably on Twitter, waiting and counting how many re-tweets he’ll get. Or that kid behind you is probably doing the same thing, only refreshing his Facebook page multiple times to see how many likes he got on his profile picture – maybe this time it will reach 60 likes. And that girl on the phone in front of you probably has said the word “like” 20 times in the last minute.
Funny, right? How many times “like” appears in our lives? You don’t notice it, but it happens. And why does this happen?
Well, we want to be liked, despite how much we deny it. And why do we deny it? Because it sounds extremely egotistic to actually admit, “Hey, I want to reach 100 likes on my Facebook profile picture,” or, “I really hope he texts me back because I really like him.” It seems as if we want the whole world to revolve around us and we want the attention spotlight to be shined on us. A lot of us are scared to admit that, but it’s also true.
If somebody tries to complement you on how you look, you either seem embarrassed or you brush it off and say the opposite, maybe how “bad” you look. Let’s be honest, though: it makes you feel good to be complemented. To be called hot. Or to be called beautiful.
And wanting to feel this way isn’t necessarily bad. I’m not saying that we should all become Narcissus and swoon over our own bodies all the time, but it’s okay to feel good. In fact, it’s great to feel good! I honestly believe that one of the purposes to our given lives is to feel good. To have fun and to feel good. Don’t put yourself down. You don’t need to look into a mirror and speculate every little part of your body, wishing you looked more like Megan Fox or Christian Bale. Because it’s useless, and it’s pointless since those are qualities that you cannot change.
The general “like” is something we all like to focus on (hehe excuse my pun). But when somebody tells you that you don’t need someone to tell you you’re hot and you don’t need someone to tell you that your tweets are funny, do you actually listen to them? Yeah yeah, we all say these types of things. I don’t know about you, but whenever someone tells me something like that, I have a feeling they don’t truly believe it themselves. Of course, we want people to approve of us and judge us in the best way possible. There’s no denying that.
Because of that, we all conform. We all do exactly what our society wants us to do, what our friends want us to look like, or what our peers want us to say. The general “like” is interesting and it’s amusing how much we’re all obsessed with it. How much we say it. How much we wait for it. How much we crave it.
We want to be liked. But that doesn’t work if we don’t even like ourselves, first.