Is Valentine’s Day an Excuse for Chivalry?

1               This has been a question that I’ve been asking myself recently.

Think about it. Every day, does a boy show up at your door to hand you a bouquet of red roses with that little box of chocolates? As a matter of fact, does your boyfriend give you flowers on a regular basis? Yesterday, I saw a post on Buzz Feed that talked about a man who got an artist to cartoon-ize his girlfriend’s face into Disney Princess scenes…creepy, but I guess that’s romantic. But, does this happen every day?

If that’s true, then you’re damn lucky.

Now, this is the part I don’t understand: why is there one day designated for this type of romantic chivalry? What makes February 14th so special?

Don’t give me the lecture on St. Valentine and all that religion stuff, because I get that part. But, it seems that men only get super romantic (if they’re even capable of it) only on this one day. And maybe your anniversary…if he remembers. So now, I ask the question, “Is Valentine’s Day an excuse for chivalry?”

It seems to be almost a requirement for men to be amazingly romantic and cute on this one day, but no other day. Why aren’t men this chivalrous all the time?

Personally, I think the answer is that men just aren’t chivalrous people. If you’ve sat through an all-male conversation, it is not about chasing after the girl of his dreams because she’s honest and perfect. It’s filled with what the next videogame is and who’s got the horniest jokes.

Uh-huh so romantic.

And the only reason why they’re so chivalrous on this one day is because the world has permanently printed a day on the calendar that requires them to be lovey-dovey. If they’re not, they lose their girlfriends or the girl they want to get into bed that night. It’s like your obligations to do chores to get what you want at the end.

Now, I’m not discrediting the chivalry of men, because not all men are like this. But, I am thinking that there’s a correlation between this one day and the high shock in the rates of chocolate hearts and pink balloons that populate the planet.

What do you think? Is Valentine’s Day just an excuse for chivalry?

2 thoughts on “Is Valentine’s Day an Excuse for Chivalry?

  1. I don’t know. I think your logic makes sense, but I also think that this holiday gets treated like a lot of other holidays. Why are we explicitly thankful on Thanksgiving? Same logic, but I think that while it’s incredibly annoying to have stores offering V-day sales and whatnot, it makes sense to have a day dedicated to it. It’s a checkpoint, a reminder. It just worries me that some people think it’s the ONLY day to celebrate love.


  2. True. I guess another way of looking at this (and this goes for other holidays as well) is that everything has become commercialized: stores take advantage of every opportunity of celebration when we should just be celebrating instead of buying a bunch of stuff for a bunch of people because everyone else expects us to.


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